They are young, beautiful and live on the fast lane
— enjoying every city luxury, yet their monthly pay
The Nairobi woman is barely 23, but she lives in a
Sh55, 000 apartment in Kileleshwa. She wears
shoes worth Sh4, 000 (in five different colours); her
handbags cost Sh6, 000 and her long fake
European hair costs a whopping Sh8,000 to attach.
She has an iPhone 4 or the latest gadget that
everyone in town lusts for. She drives a new red
Toyota Ist and, to top it off, has an accent that can
easily be confused as American yet she has never
stepped out of the country.
When she goes out with her girlfriends, she pays a
Sh20,000 bill without blinking — yet she barely
earns that in a month.
Brilliant budgeting? Nah! Shrewd saving skills? Of
If you examine her life closely, you realise her rich
lifestyle can all be attributed to one thing:
To survive today’s tough economy, young Nairobi
women have taken multitasking to a new level by
‘triple dealing’ — dating three, or even more men
depending on their financial ambitions.
Their excuse? You cannot eat love.
In the good old days, all a woman had to do when
she wanted to climb the social ladder quickly
without breaking a sweat was to get her hands on
an rich sugar daddy.
Nowadays, since not everyone can have a rich
sugar daddy, Nairobi women delegate and spread
their financial obligations amongst different men.
The new ‘sugar daddy’ is no longer that sneaky old
rich guy who is married with children. These days,
he does not even have to be married or extremely
All a man has to do to qualify is to have some
income and he is a good breathing ATM for today’s
Nairobi woman, who has expensive tastes but no
cash. Roles are distributed to unsuspecting men,
usually according to their financial capabilities.
Thus, while one boyfriend pays for the monthly hair
and shoe expenses; another pays rent and food
and the other provides the monthly entertainment
Often, a fourth — the ‘real’ boyfriend — is added into
the mix. The number usually depends on how
greedy and well horned a woman’s multitasking
Jackie, an administrator with a locally owned
company in town, claims she can barely survive on
what she makes at the end of the month and is
unapologetic about her lifestyle.
“I have always wanted to stay in a good house and
drive a nice car. I can’t do it on my salary. I have
three boyfriends; one who pays for my house bills,
another who pays for my beauty upkeep and my
real boyfriend who doesn’t earn much,” she says.
Because of this arrangement, she is able to live
comfortably and is even planning to buy a Toyota
Vitz next February.
Juliet Akinyi, a student who owns a clothing store,
says she has two boyfriends. “I have an older
boyfriend who is married; he pays most of my bills
and the rent for my two-bedroom apartment in
Westlands. He is even the one who helped me start
my business,” she explains
But she also has another boyfriend who is three
years older. “He has just gotten a job and doesn’t
have much money, but he is the one I love and
intend to marry,” she states.
Naturally, the men caught up in these ‘love’ webs
rarely have a clue that they are a crowd in the
Mike Juma, a banker, says he was shocked when
his girlfriend, a fellow banker, invited him to her
place for dinner. “She lived in a three bedroom
maisonette in South C. Everything, from her 46-inch
Samsung television to her double door fridge, was
We earn the same salary, but all I can afford is a
servant’s quarter in South C. It made no sense. I
suspected something was not right because she
was living way above her means. But I kept quite,”
His fears were confirmed a month later when he
found out from a colleague at work that his
‘girlfriend’ had a string of men who took care of her
financially. Shocked, he made a random visit to her
house one Friday night when she was apparently
‘not available’ only to find her entertaining another
Moses Owiti, a businessman who found himself in
a bit of a muddle with the last woman he dated, is
another victim. He claims that she did not even
bother to hide the fact that she had two other men
in her life. After going on a few dates, she casually
let him know that he was not the only man in her
life as she already had two other boyfriends.
“I could not believe her nerve. She let me know that
she had two other boyfriends, yet she was stunned
when I immediately ended our relationship. She
actually believed that we could continue our
relationship as if nothing was amiss!” he says.
But why would married men spend large amounts
of money keeping women?
Several men who spoke to this writer said keeping
a woman is cheaper than having one night stands.
“The most you can spend on such a woman is say
Sh30,000 a month. But she cooks dinner and you
have a getaway from home when the wife becomes
a nag. You can’t compare that with sleeping in
lodgings, which cost as much as Sh5,000 a night in
some places,” one explained.
It, however, appears the real attraction such
Nairobi women have for men is the opportunity for
Jorum Martim, who runs a sleek butchery in
Kitengela, says that when he starts paying rent for
a woman, she becomes his wife, meaning using
condoms is out of the question.
But that is where things start going wrong. Most
obvious is the risk of contracting or spreading
sexually transmitted diseases, since the men they
fraternise with often also have relationships with
There are also the Nairobi women who eventually
fall in love with the good life and the men who fund
it. In a bid to make the relationship permanent, they
become pregnant. To their horror, instead of that
tying up men, most vanish into thin air.
Tales abound of pregnant Nairobi women who
suddenly find the financial support cut off, the rent
to the apartment unpaid, and the Vitz towed away.
Little wonder the Children’s Court remains a lively
Abandoned with a child and without cash and the
comforts they were accustomed to, their lives
careen downhill and they end up bitter and angry.
But there are the smart ones who juggle it so well
that financial security is assured for the rest of their
lives. When they land a big fish, an apartment is
bought, business and employment contacts are
made and exploited, enabling them to make a tidy
sum and lift their social status even higher, where
they can play around and hook even bigger fish.
So men, when you see a Nairobi woman
approaching you with killer hips, a seductive smile
and a bewitching bust, don’t fall flat. At least don’t
brag too much about the conquest, or dream that
you are firmly in the driver’s seat.
You may not be the only bean in her githeri, but just
a cog in her financial base.
Your role could be to service her fabulous but
elusive Nairobi lifestyle in return for a token service
once in a while, when he ‘real’ boyfriend is out of
Come to think of it, you could even be paying her
Source: The Standard